You keep functioning
On the outside, you do what is needed. On the inside, it takes more and more out of you.
For individuals, groups and organisations
YOU ARENOT BROKEN.YOUR SYSTEMIS STILL ON.
You work. You care. You get things done. You keep going. And sometimes you realise that understanding alone is no longer enough. You want change. Calm. Direction. To be able to move forward with your life again.
From surviving to living.
MARK PAASMANMENTOR
Recognition before explanation
You do not need to know my method to know that something has to change.
You may already have shared, explored and understood a great deal. But understanding is not always the same as changing. This website does not ask you to believe in a theory first. It helps you decide whether I, the setting and the format on offer might suit you.
You have been searching for a long time
You have words and insight, but change has yet to truly take hold.
You want to move forward
Not merely keep going, but experience calm, direction and control again.
Choose your entry point
For myself
Personal guidance, a group workshop or the complete three-day programme. For those who want to do more than understand.
Explore individual programmes→For my organisation
For professionals, leaders and teams who want to remain clear-headed, communicate carefully and retain control under pressure.
Explore organisational programmes→Experiences
Their words. What changed.
These are public accounts from people who followed a programme with me, or with Danielle and me. In their own words, they describe where they started, what changed and where they are now.
“I am no longer a victim of the effects of post-trauma. I am in control.”
BrittIndividual · three sessions · August 2026 · translated from Dutch
At her first session, Britt’s legs shook so severely that she could barely walk. A few hours later, she noticed that her legs were no longer shaking and felt strength again. Three sessions later, she wrote that she had regained her appetite for life, cautiously dared to think about the future again and was no longer a victim of the effects of post-trauma: ‘I am in control.’
Read Britt’s experience“After so many years of fear, I realised how incredibly free I am now. Calm and peace.”
After years in care, Mirna wrote that she felt control, strength and a future again. Two months later, she sent a message from Albania — travelling alone and hiking in the mountains.
Read Mirna’s experience“Today I am truly free of PTSD and have now had no PNEA attacks for 23 days.”
Jack says he used to collapse an average of twice a day. In his review, he described 23 attack-free days, cycling alone again, cycling with his daughter and being able to set goals again.
Read Jack’s experience“Barry and I have grown much closer again, because we see each other again.”
Three months later, Marieke wrote: ‘We experience things more intensely and are much happier. We are living rather than surviving.’ About her relationship with Barry: ‘We have grown much closer again because we see each other again.’
Read Marieke’s experienceEvery experience is personal. One person's outcome is not a promise to another.
View all experiencesIndividuals
A format that fits where you are now.
You do not need to know how my method is structured before we speak. In an introductory conversation, we first look at what you are seeking, what participation will require of you and which setting may suit you.
01Personal
One-to-one
Personal guidance with room for your story, your pace and the practical work involved.
02Half day
Group workshop
An intensive half-day in a group, focused on recognising what is happening, finding a shared language and taking the first practical steps towards regaining control.
03Three days
The Way Back
The complete three-day programme for those who want to move beyond understanding, work through the complete route and put it into practice.
Organisations
Lead yourself and others under pressure.
For professionals, leaders and teams who want to continue acting, communicating and making decisions carefully, even under sustained pressure.
My organisational programmes use clear language, a direct mirror and practical exercises. Each format is grounded in the working environment and designed for application from the next working day.
01Personal
One-to-one for professionals
For leaders and professionals who want to recognise their own patterns under pressure and work deliberately towards greater control.
023 hours · 6–10 participants · maximum 12
Workshop for teams
A focused half-day for a small group, with room to recognise patterns, practise and apply what they learn from the very next working day.
03Three days
Complete three-day programme
The full route for organisations that want to go beyond an introduction and learn to put the work into practice together.
The organisational workshop focuses on
- Recognising early signs of pressure
- Separating observable facts from assumptions
- Noticing automatic responses earlier
- Communicating and acting more deliberately under pressure
- Concrete actions for the next working day
Mark Paasman
Not a coach. Not a trainer. A mentor.
I take you with me.
Having knowledge is one thing. Mastery means working through that knowledge deeply enough to pass it on to different people in language they understand. Do that often enough and wisdom emerges. That is the triangle I use to measure myself: knowledge, mastery and wisdom.
Hard on the content. Gentle with the person.
01Knowledge
02Mastery
03Wisdom
Experience behind the work
Seven years of service
Former Royal Netherlands Navy diver and helicopter rescue diver, with seven years of service and multiple deployments.
Author
Author of Bevrijd van PTSS — Mijn verhaal, mijn methodiek, published in 2022.
White Carnation Award 2023
Selected by the jury as one of fifteen nominees from more than one hundred nominations, for my work supporting veterans with PTSD.
Institutional exploration
After meeting at the White Carnation Award, the Inspector General of the Armed Forces visited my practice in October 2023. The IGK subsequently documented possible next steps and organisations for further exploration within the care system.
The first step
First, let us see whether it fits.
Briefly describe what you are facing and what you would like to explore. Do not share extensive personal or sensitive information here. If a follow-up conversation is appropriate, I can invite you to MijnDiAd so we can communicate securely.
You do not need to share your whole story here. After the first contact, we use MijnDiAd for sensitive information.